Being a Queer Woman in Eswatini: Navigating Tradition, Stigma, and Emerging Hope

Living in Eswatini means being surrounded by deep-rooted culture and tradition. The influence of the monarchy is strong, shaping how society functions. But as a queer woman, this culture often feels restrictive, making life challenging.

Eswatini’s society is built on patriarchal values and customary laws that don’t leave much space for people like me. Our constitution might not directly address homosexuality, but old colonial laws still criminalize same-sex relationships. This legal reality creates a constant fear of arrest just for being myself.

This fear is made worse by the social attitudes here. Many people see homosexuality as something wrong, shaped by cultural and religious beliefs that don’t accept anything outside of heterosexual norms. This leads to discrimination in many areas of life, from school and work to healthcare. On top of that, the fear of being rejected by my family and community is always there, making it easier to hide who I am rather than risk the consequences.

Despite these difficulties, I’ve found ways to manage. I’ve connected with underground LGBTQ+ groups where I can be open and understood. These groups give me a sense of belonging and strength, even though they operate in the shadows.

Social media has also been a big help. It connects me to others around the world who share similar experiences. This online community helps me feel less isolated and part of a larger movement.

Lately, there has been a bit of hope. Local groups are starting to advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, pushing for changes in laws and social attitudes. These efforts, along with international support, make me believe that change is possible, even here.

The path ahead is still difficult, but I hold onto this hope. By continuing to support each other and share our stories, I believe we can slowly work toward a future where everyone in Eswatini can live openly and without fear. Each step forward, no matter how small, brings us closer to a more accepting society.